I remember back as a child feeling things that I thought were a normal part of human sensing. When I would see an animal getting hurt, I would feel the pain from their perspective. When I would see another child get bullied, I would feel the pain of the child getting bullied. I would question how that bully could act that way and endure the pain they had caused on someone else. I had to realize that they could not feel what they had done. They were unaware and had to learn it for themselves. Some people do not have that innate ability to feel empathy. That means that some must be taught this very important truth.
We are creators and this creation begins with thought. Thoughts give birth to feelings. When this normal process is interrupted or a person lacks the ability to transfer their thoughts into the correct feelings, then empathy may not be part of this process. After having a near death experience when I was twenty, this truth was reinforced and I was reminded that we are all connected and everything we do has an effect on those around us. This means that we will all eventually see the lives we have lived as if we are in other’s shoes. The golden rule of treating others as we have been treated stems from the understanding that ultimately what we do contributes to a network of creation that connects to those we connect with. Ultimately, what we do to others is what we do to ourselves even if it is not fully realized until we leave this dimension.
Some who do not have the correct development can develop a power reaction to this process. When they suppress or harm another, they generate a reaction to power. This process can set up a learned detriment. This process is not satisfying in itself and some will consume it like a drug. They can set out to experience it again seeking to satisfy the true missing component of empathy. This may not even be conscious understanding to them.
As a result they will develop a pattern of thoughts that allows them to set themselves apart from others as entitled. Once this thought pattern is rooted, it can lead to feelings and then attitudes and actions that reinforce it. This creates a place for these individuals to become potential power brokers rather than those who understand empowerment.
Predator Prey Mentality
This can further develop into a predator prey mentality. A predator seeks out prey with one unconscious goal to generate power over their prey. This cycle does not go to the level of feeling with empathy. Instead, they become locked into a process that they can justify as a reality. They may incorrectly develop an understanding that others view the world as they do and in an attempt to not live out the weaker side of the prey and they will seek to be the predator more assuredly.
For some, this desire is developed as an unconscious perception of fear. These people develop a satisfaction generated on fear instead of an empathetic response that leads to a mature spiritual state. There is no doubt that Adolf Hitler followed such a process when he ordered sick children to be used in the testing of gas chambers. He was not capable of empathy or conceiving the pain that would be caused both physically and mentally to those who would be killed. Instead, he learned to feed his spirit by generating power over others that was generated by fear.
Not only does this process generate a vacuum in the predator’s spirit, but it also generates a vacuum that “steals” energy from their prey. Fear acts as a vacuum where love is absent. When love is present then our spirit and physical being are living in balance in this dimension and the dimension of the “afterlife”.
It is essential for those who do not have an innate ability to feel empathy to learn this process even if they cannot truly feel what others feel. The acknowledgement of our actions as a direct reaction on others can still be a learned process that will enable an individual to progress to a more balanced state. Once they are aware that they are missing something, they may seek to understand and be open to what they may be missing. This realization will then offer an opportunity for them to evolve spiritually and be an active participant in their creation process that will bring about a positive directional growth for themselves and for those for which they interact.
Dianne Irene September 2011